How Do You Help Students Who Are Perfectionists?

Eleven reasons why some simple guide to helping students who are perfectionists. Use the guide yourself or work through the steps with someone you are with.

How you help students who are perfectionists

1. Encourage a Growth Mindset

Help students develop a growth mindset, where they understand that abilities and intelligence can be developed through effort and learning.  This can shift their focus from seeking perfection to valuing progress and continuous improvement.

 

2. Set Realistic Expectations

Help students set realistic and achievable goals.  Teach them that aiming for progress, rather than perfection, is a more productive and sustainable approach.

 

3. Normalize Mistakes

Emphasize that mistakes are a natural part of the learning process.  Discuss famous figures who faced failures and setbacks but eventually succeeded due to their perseverance and willingness to learn from errors.

 

4. Practice Self-Compassion

Teach students to be kind to themselves.  Encourage them to treat themselves with the same understanding and support they would offer to a friend facing a challenge.

 

5. Time Management

Help students break tasks into smaller, manageable steps.  This can prevent feelings of being overwhelmed and reduce the pressure to achieve perfection in one go.

 

6. Celebrate Progress

Shift focus from the end result to the progress made.  Encourage students to celebrate their achievements and improvements along the way, no matter how small they may seem.

 

7. Encourage Healthy Work-Life Balance

Stress the importance of a balanced life.  Help students explore hobbies and activities that provide relaxation and enjoyment, which can counteract the stress associated with perfectionism.

 

8. Challenge Negative Thoughts

Teach students to recognize and challenge negative self-talk and unrealistic standards.  Cognitive-behavioural techniques can be helpful in reframing perfectionists thoughts.

 

9. Offer Constructive Feedback

Provide feedback that focuses on effort and improvement rather than solely on the final outcome.  Highlight areas where growth has occurred and suggest ways to continue progressing.

 

10. Promote Collaboration

Encourage students to collaborate with peers.  Working teams can help them see different perspectives and learn from one another's strenghts and weaknesses.

 

11. Seek Professional Help

If a student's perfectionism is causing significant distress or interfering with their daily life, it might be helpful to involve a school counselor, therapist, or psychologist who specializes in cognitive-behavioural therapy or related approaches.

 

12. Lead by Example

Model a healthy attitude toward mistakes and setbacks. Sharing your own experiences of learning from failures can show students that perfection isn't necessary for success.

 

Summary

Remember each student is unique, so tailor your approach based on their personality and needs.  It's important to create an environment where students feel supported and empowered to embrace learning and growth, rather than the unattainable goal of perfection.

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